Earlier in my career, I was made to realize that it's not always bad to "LIE, CHEAT AND STEAL".
I learned to LIE and tell myself, "I can do it", "I know it" or "I have it in me" during times I know I didn't have the knowledge and experience to deliver and times I start to doubt or question my abilities.
I pushed myself to CHEAT by doing more than what are expected of me.
And finally I started to STEAL people's ideas and apply them if it helps me grow as a person. It's all about the value it gives me as I move forwards. If it's working for them, there has to be something there. What is it? Will it help me and my goals?
My first job interview, I wasn't asked where I saw myself in two or three years. I was asked where I wanted to be at that exact time if I wasn't being interviewed for a job.
My answer: "I'd be where you are, asking questions instead of giving answers".
I got hired and after a month, was promoted as the HR Manager, replacing her for a hotel chain. A fresh graduate but this started my journey in Human Resources, Management and Leadership.
Truth be told, I didn't know where that answer came from. Growing up, I never saw myself as a leader, a manager or even a business owner but for some reason, I always end up there.
How did I manage to succeed even without the experience when I was just starting out in management?
I embraced the trust given and taught myself to be the person entrusted to do the job. I pushed myself to be a sponge, learned and worked so hard to excel and succeed. I didn't question her or myself. No self-doubts. I just focused and with determination, accepted the challenge, tackled and made sure I won. Then I went the extra mile and started teaching others to do the same.
How I LIED, CHEATED and STOLE my way through managing myself and others.
KNOW THE PEOPLE I WORK WITH
1. Get to know the people I work with and their "why".
- I put myself in their shoes because understanding them, where they are coming from and why they expect what they expect from me are all key points to have not just a successful but more importantly a healthy relationship in a work place.
2. Present who I really am about and my "why".
- As in all the other relationship, there are always two sides. It's not enough I get to understand the people I am dealing with; they have to understand me. Keeping them in the dark about my expectations, goals and all my "why" will not do productivity and performance any good.
It wasn't just what I needed from them. It's more what they needed from me. I train myself to work with them but there is also a need for me to train them on how to work with me.
1. Why are they with the company and what are their passions or goals?
- Knowing these will help me see the whole picture as seen by the person when it comes to how that person views his/her future with the company and me as a teammate. Making their goals mine is helping the team find its way to each team member's higher productivity and performance.
2. Be transparent about my goals and where they fit in reaching that goal.
-This is a team and people are known not to succeed alone. Making my goals theirs will help them realize that they are essential to me, to my role and my job. The possibility of them making my growth theirs is a must to succeed.
1. Encourage them to talk to me about anything. Whether it's an achievement, about something great that happened at work or at home or something that let them down, frustrated and stressed them at work or at home, I LISTEN.
- If it's something great, this will give me an insight on what their passion and skills are which can help me know how to better work with them or lead them.
- If it's something that went wrong, I go the extra mile to help them out. Sometimes they just need to be heard. I LISTEN.
Empower them like I empower myself. Trust that with my guidance, they will deliver. That with my support, they will give more than expected. That with my trust and belief in them, they will realize their worth and strive to add value to themselves as a person and their services.
I keep in mind that there is always more to a person than what is on the table. If they have not realized it yet, I help them work through that realization.
In everything, I need to keep in mind that I affect people around me so communication is the key. I make sure that we are all on the same page. People need to be heard, included, respected and valued. Before I make a decision, I prepare myself.
- I first put myself in their shoes, think about how my actions and my decision will affect them and the job they do.
- I ask myself how each team player will react and why?
- Then I create an action plan. What am I going to do about fixing any problems that may arise from my decisions?
- And lastly, I talk to them. I let myself be heard and I listen to what they have to say. We brainstorm as they may have better ideas or ways to proceed. What they say hold importance as this will affect all of us at the end of the day.
These steps and results from this process gave me a clear perspective on how to best handle working with the team and come up with the best solutions that are beneficial to all of us as individuals and as a team.
Last but not the least, one of the most important things on how you can add value to yourself is “CONTINUE TO LEARN”
- Be resourceful, learn more and add value to yourself, your services and others.
Expectations change and this is a fact. We need to be able to adapt, learn and grow. It could be an idea or wisdom you stole from others and if you have to lie and cheat yourself into successful personal growth then do it.
WE GO ON A DIET, EAT LESS AND EXERCISE MORE TO EITHER MAINTAIN OR LOSE WEIGHT. WE WORK SO HARD TO FIT IN THAT PAIR OF JEANS. GOAL!
But there is one very important thing that we can't lose. It's that passion for learning. If anything, we shouldn't lose the need to know more and to grow as a person. We must not be contented in how much knowledge and value we have now. We need to learn more and add more. We need to be hungry for knowledge to have self fulfillment.
One of my finest moment was when I realized that I can be almost anything and succeed if I put the work, dedication and passion to learning and molding myself into that person. It's not easy but ask yourself this, "How much do you want it and what are you willing to do to reach it?".
Learning and honing skills do not stop. It's a continuous process… LIE, CHEAT AND STEAL to learn, acquire more knowledge, grow and add value to yourself and others around you.
I leave you with my own personal daily MANTRA: “MY WORTH TOMORROW SHOULD ALWAYS BE SO MUCH MORE THAN TODAY”
About the author: Bernadette Canero holds a Bachelor's degree in Industrial Engineering. She is one of the founders and owners of Summit VA Solutions. Ms Canero is Summit's VP of Operations and Virtual Assistant trainer.